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When we first met

When we first met it was at a gathering with mutual friends. Outside, it was a cold, snowy Friday night in January 2010. Inside, the music was right. It was clean fun and a good time hanging out with friends we love. With all that I was dealing with, I needed to let off some steam and dancing was the key. Song after song infused in me with more energy than I could imagine. It was therapeutic for me.

The Most Engaging Smile that make my heart melt
The Most Engaging Smile

"something special was happening"

Everyone was dancing, including Robert. What got me is that smile. Oh, he has the most engaging smile that makes my heart melt! There is a warmth behind his smile. I was intrigued by him. I admired his entire presence. He is dignified, the perfect gentleman. How is it possible that I felt safe just standing near him, someone I didn't know? We both felt it even though there were no words spoken. Something special was happening right before our eyes. That gathering was memorable. Then just as quickly as this mysterious meet occured, we parted and went separate ways.

"would he be able to deal with my health issues, my depression?" 

Passing the torch of responsibility to a loved one takes courage
Passing the torch

I wish I could explain how many thoughts and questions I had as I left that night: Who is he? Will we see each other again? Would he be able to deal with my health issues, my depression? Would I be able to pass the torch of responsibility to him? I'm clearly not being reasonable right now, that poor man, if he only knew what I was thinking he would run for the hills! I wish I could delete the what-ifs out of my mind. But I couldn't.

"would he be there?"

The kids had a Skate Party two days later. Robert has kids so would he be there?...

⇒Hello Reader, we're curious: Are there any what-if thoughts you struggle with? Let us know in the comments.


  1. My husband of the past 10 years came into the relationship knowing full well my condition. I had written a book about living with bipolar disorder and one of our first dates was coffee after he brought flowers to my book signing. Sounds a bit unconventional but true. In our personal situation I think there are 3 key components to making it work. The first is our consideration for each other. This means me appreciating how difficult it can be for him dealing with the ups and downs of my illness. On the flip side it means him, due to so much prolonged exposure and treatment seeking, appreciating my pain on so many levels; never sympathizing but always empathizing. I think another important component is his ability to recognize my triggers then for warn and encourage me to avoid them. Finally it’s his overall involvement and unconditional support. He’s a part of every decision concerning my treatment plans or changes to them. He encourages me to stay on track with the things I can control such as proper eating, exercise and sleep, even when I don’t want to hear it. He’s not always successful but he knows when to step back too. There are always going to be certain things that only I can be responsible for and he won’t hesitate to tell me that. I won’t say he never gets frustrated, that wouldn’t be reality. But we didn’t get here over night; it took a lot of time and patience. He’s certainly not perfect but he knows we’re in this together and that’s all I could ask for.

    Thank you Will ❤️

    1. Michelle (and Will), wow, sounds like you both know how to make it work. Ten years is a big deal, congratulations! You mentioned some very important factors: consideration, recognizing triggers, support - so vital. We are so happy to have your comment, keep us posted. We would love to hear more of your success story.


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